I am asked 31488505844982 times no really that many! lol " Why are you single" or " Where is your husband" ?
Its really simply.
the answer: I refuse to settle. and he is coming and he will be ON TIME
Could I be married right now? For sure! However I don't want to be miserable just to have someone.
Back in august of 2015 I got to a place where I told God I want to be hidden until my husband was ready. At the time I OVER the dating scene inside and outside the church. * Hard eye roll*
Since then Ive been able to stay laser focused on myself & businesses. God started giving me ideas and the plan to execute them. So lets just say this last year has been extremely fruitful.
Intentionally single simply means you are aware of the season you are in and you know a mate is either coming and/or isn't right now so you are focused on being the best version of you possible. God isn't going to keep you confused about his will for your life as you diligently seek him (emphasis on diligently).
For me I knew I was entering a season of intense preparation and development. Prophetically it was like every word I received was Pre-pare he is coming. After going through a bunch of toads I was more than happy to NOT DATE ANYONE. Not because my heart was broke ,but my nerves were tore up. Literally there were guys just coming in my life to get on my nerves lol. Talking about "Can I pursue you", "God said you were my wife" blah blah blah.
Over the past 11 months Ive had two occurrences where I almost let a man in my life to be completely honest. Neither lasted long at all. Simply because they weren't my husband. With each step to honor Gods timeline for my life its been easier to dismiss those who aren't it and properly place them in or out of my life.
To do something intentionally means on purpose. I Intentionally decided to embrace being single. This means everything you do during the pre-wife-life aka single season is to be done ON PURPOSE and with purpose.
Here are some way to embrace this season purposefully while dodging distractions.
1. Seek God daily. Master your devotion time.
2. Fulfill the current chapter of your destiny.
3. Join a group or start your own. Accountability is MAJOR! Also you need to surround yourself with people who have the same mindset.
4. Pray for your one day mate. Keep them covered in prayer. If you pray prophetically it will be fun to exchange prayer notes later :)
5. Embrace how you really feel about this season. You can have happy days and sad days. YOU ARE HUMAN and its ok to realize this. Adjust regroup , pray and remember what God showed you.
Lastly its ok to read others love stories but don't EVER think your story will be the same. Keep your heart open for the love God has FOR YOU. Just imagine your love story being even better than the one you have read , watch and marveled over time after time.
Contentment comes from gaining God perspective. Now if you need to intentionally shut the dating door DO IT! God honors our obedience :)
P.S. This doesn't mean you dodge all men! Discern them , learn when to hold em and when to fold em.
disclaimer: This is not intended to be the solution for everyone just information based off my experiences. Take whats needed but none of this intended to be your life law. :) Each one teach one and I hope you were blessed.
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